Daughter Given Up for
Adoption Reunites With Mom After Decades of Searching
Teresa Stinson said she
had spent her whole life wondering who her birth mother was and why she was
given up for adoption 47 years ago.
But what she didn’t know
until recently was that her birth mother had been searching for her for
decades.
Christine “Chris” Shirley,
now 66 years old, had often wondered what had happened to her baby girl.
“I gave up hope as the
years went on, because I thought, ‘well, when she was in her 30s surely she
would want to know ... who her birth parents were,’” Shirley told ABC News'
“Nightline.” “And in her 40s ... I was giving up hope.”
But it was her daughter,
Teresa, who found her first.
In December 2013, a bill
was passed in Ohio that opened adoption records between 1964 and 1995, allowing
400,000 adoptees born in the state a chance to request their birth certificate
for the first time ever.
The new bill made Ohio the
newest state to allow adoptees to have access to their original birth
certificates.
Birth parents were given a
one year period to request that their name be redacted from the birth
certificate. Once the period expired, adoptees could request their birth
certificates. Currently, only 12 states have open adoption records laws.
“It’s been surreal,”
Norris told “Nightline.” “When the bill finally passed after it having so many
times that it went down in flames ... it finally sunk in that this is actually
really, really, really happening.”
Two of those adoptees were
Teresa Stinson, 47, and her sister Vanessa Navis, 44, who were both adopted by
the same couple and grew up in Middlebranch, Ohio.
Both came from different
birth parents and said they had a happy childhood, but always knew they were
adopted and had questions.
“Just millions of
questions,” Teresa said. “Where did I come from? Did my birth mother ever think
about me?”
When her adopted mother
told Teresa that her birth mother loved her but couldn’t take care of her,
Teresa said it was difficult for her to take in.
“Even as a young child ...
I so internalized that and it became a point that I had a really bad
self-image, and I was never good enough,” she said.
But it wasn’t until last
month after the new law in Ohio went into effect that she had the first
opportunity to find her birth mother because the records were sealed before.
Teresa, now married with
two kids, also never thought that her birth mother would be looking for her all
these years.
“It was easier for me to
believe that I wasn’t good enough,” she said. “It would almost be too painful
for me to hope, to have that hope that, ‘gosh, she might be out there looking
for me.’”
When the law passed,
Teresa applied for her original birth certificate -- she was issued a new one
when she was adopted that included her birth date but not who her birth parents
were.
Meanwhile, her sister
Vanessa started looking online and found the first clue to Teresa’s past in a
post on an adoption registry website for birth mothers looking for daughter
given up for adoption.
“I came across this
adoption registry website and I thought ... ‘I’ll type in Teresa’s birth
date,’” Vanessa said. “And then on that registry was her birth mother’s name
and that she had registered in 2001. ... I just said, ‘hey, I think I found
your birth mother,’ and she’s like, ‘what?’”